You may write: "With love and deepest condolences", "My Sincere sympathies", or "My thoughts and prayers are always with you." Keep the letter focused on the person and their loss, rather than interjecting your own experiences with death.Acknowledge the loss and name the deceased. I'm so incredibly sorry for the loss of your husband and father. Please know that he will live on in all of our fond memories. Quick do's and don'ts for offering comfort when someone dies: Do offer a distraction. When writing a condolence letter, starting with an empathetic and compassionate tone is essential. The Beneficiary must complete the Beneficiary Claim Form in full and return it to you. Loss of Family Member of Close Friend: "Friend, there are no words for something as heartbreaking as this. If you would like to send a condolence message to a family please fill out the form below and we will deliver it to them.