In an arranged marriage, what should a boy ask a girl in the first meeting? Scene: The first arranged marriage meeting.Boy entered my home alone. It is better to be clear from the start if both are interested in marriage or being pressurized. This document provides 22 steps for how to talk in an arranged marriage meeting. 1. Spend time together. Take advantage of the time you and your betrothed have together, even if a family member or chaperone is nearby. "I'm 29, single, and in that phase of my life where I'm meeting guys for arranged marriage. And the experience has been absolutely irritating!"