It is better to lean in on conservative until you know the family well. Indo-western mix would be a good bet -- a nice short kurti with formal pants would be both elegant and not trying too hard. Kurti does not have to be silk. Even a nice cotton one (that looks new) would look good and you would be comfortable.
Questions to ask a potential match in AM Why do you want to marry? Why are you opting for an arranged marriage? How has the process been for you so far? What does marriage mean to you? What are your/ family's expectations from your partner?
Ask about the next meeting if you want to move forward. Arranged marriages tend to happen pretty quickly, so there's no time to beat around the bush. You can say something like, “I've really enjoyed spending time with you. I'd like to set up a second meeting. What do you think?”
Solid questions. I would also ask about financial choices. Whether they prefer separate accounts or joint account. Sexual compatibility is something you should eventually ask too, although I realise it is not possible for the first time. Share of domestic chores and how household work will be divided.
What would you like me to do for you after marriage? What do you want to see in me as a husband? How much time do you expect me to spend with you daily? What special can I do everyday for you after marriage? What habits you don't like to see in your future husband?
Keep the everything simple. Be the real one the who you are. Don't try to be over smart. it can backfire. Ask about each other hobbies interests . Don't ask about his work in details if you are form different streams... After some time you will reach a point whe
Ask him why does he want to marry? Is it parents pressure or not. How much depth does he have to his personality. If he works in a corporate. Ask your relative who has some corporate experience to also have a chat with him and assess him. Depending on his field. Try knowing what sort of a friend circle he has.