Instead make the check out as ``John Smith OR Jane Doe''. ing to the state and their bank, both these people exist at the time of the reception (when gifts are given) and depositing them in the bank isn't a problem. Either party can endorse and deposit the check, since the word ``OR'' is used.
Personally, I'm a huge fan of just stating the facts without trying to hide it in a poem. FH and I will likely say ``if you would like to give a gift, any contribution towards our honeymoon would be much appreciated''.
While the amount you should gift a couple depends on a number of factors, the latest available data from The Knot reveals that U.S. wedding guests spent an average of $160 on a gift in 2021. Adjust that for inflation and you're looking at about $187 in 2023. "It's common to give anywhere from $100 to $1,000.
It is rude to put any preference or request for gifts on the invitation. The way you can let your preference be known, without asking for a gift, is to list what you want on a registry. Many couples have a wedding website, and under registry, politely state you have all the household goods you need.
Be Direct but Polite: You can express your desire for a gift in a straightforward manner while maintaining politeness. For example, ``I've been thinking about (specific item) and would love it for (occasion).'' Use Context: If there's a specific occasion, like a birthday or holiday, you can mention that.
Here are some general guidelines: Close Friends or Family: $100 to $200 is often considered a reasonable range. Acquaintances or Co-workers: $50 to $100 is typically acceptable. Group Gifts: If you're contributing as part of a group, $20 to $50 can be sufficient.