Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters. This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring.You can write your own letter or use our sample letter. Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter. Q: How do I opt-out my child from testing? We are writing today to inform you of our decision to refuse to allow our child, ________________________, to participate in all standardized tests and tasks. My son will not be participating in state standardized testing during the current school year. New York State Allies for Public Education created sample opt out letters for parents to present to the school. "Some states or districts have specific forms.