In Texas, merely cheating is not enough to get alimony (we call it spousal support). In Texas, we have limited s.s.Although adultery in and of itself may not qualify as a factor in determining alimony, the circumstances surrounding it might have an impact. You don't owe alimony to someone who quit and refuses to go back to work for a few months. Alimony, which New York now calls "maintenance" flows from the moneyed spouse to the nonmoneyed spouse no matter the actual facts. Emphasize factors that favor an award of spousal support. How does she divorce a financially abusive cheater who hasn't worked in years? He's spending their retirement savings and house sale money. So do NOT fill him in, unless your lawyer tells you to. When going through a divorce, many couples encounter the topic of alimony, also called spousal support or maintenance.