First, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's death—this can be very, very painful and difficult (I know, I lost my wife as well). I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.It's terrible to go through such a loss, but especially right now. Writing a condolence message is never easy. We've compiled a few expert tips and provided several sympathy note ideas to use in any scenario here. Whether you're seeking sympathy wishes, quotes, or card messages for someone grieving the loss of their wife, we've got you covered. The rules of expressing sympathy have become muddied at best, and concealed in an onslaught of emoji at worst. Here are 10 tips on how to write a condolence letter and what to say and what not to say. Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy.