Examples from Collins dictionaries. Neil sent him a letter of condolence.You do not need to express condolences for your own loss. Meaningful, personal, and compassionate letters of condolence can be both a tribute to the child who died and a source of comfort to the parents. SHARE A POSITIVE MEMORY Instead of falling back on a shopworn phrase, savvy condolers often share a warm or uplifting memory of the deceased. Here are some suggestions for expressing sympathy clearly and supportively to the bereaved. Email is fine, but avoid texting. "I am deeply sorry for your loss. "I am deeply saddened to learn that your (mother, father, spouse, sibling, etc.) recently passed away. Please know that you have my deepest sympathy.