Michelle and I offer our heartfelt sympathy and pray that God's grace gives you comfort as you grieve. Follow these steps for writing a condolence letter and find free examples for inspiration when you need a letter for a family member, colleague, and more.You did everything right, and in the end, mistakes was stil made. Just like you, being in the healthcare profession. A Short List of Appropriate Phrases: Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your partner. Don't write, "I cannot imagine what you are going through," or "I don't know what to say. " It's about the bereaved person, not about you.