"May God comfort you and give you strength. Begin with a simple acknowledgement of the loss.Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy. " "We would like to express our sincere condolences to you and your family. The loss of a spouse leaves a void that words cannot fill. Please remember that I am here to support you, listen, and share in your grief. Please accept my sincere sympathies. Avoid using uncomfortable words that may indicate that the death was tragic or gruesome. When writing your letter, imagine yourself in the other person's place. To publish a public condolence: Complete the Name (your name),.