HannahI am so deeply sorry for the loss of that childyour lossyou lost her, too. Begin with a simple acknowledgement of the loss.Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy. "I am deeply sorry for your loss. Please accept my sympathy for your sad loss. To the family who have lost a child. Avoid using uncomfortable words that may indicate that the death was tragic or gruesome. When writing your letter, imagine yourself in the other person's place. Opening the note: Consider identifying yourself and expressing something personal about the impact of the loss (e.g. My heart aches for you, and I hope you find strength in the love and support surrounding you.