Your condolence message should be brief, heartfelt, and direct. The bereaved person will get many condolences, so there's no need to go overboard.Share a positive memory of thoughtfulness, warmth, or other positive qualities the loved one possessed if you were also close with the deceased. Keep the letter as brief and as short as possible. We extend our deepest condolences for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences for you and your family's loss. I am thinking of you and sending my love. "I am deeply sorry for your loss. "We're sorry to hear about the loss of your ___. " "The office is sending our deepest condolences to you and your family.