What are some comforting words? Here are 10 tips on how to write a condolence letter and what to say and what not to say.We would like to extend our deepest sympathies and sincere condolences at this most difficult time for you and your family. I am here for you when you need a friend. Your condolences to the person you are writing to (and their family). A condolence letter should avoid making reference to how the person passed away. "I am deeply sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. I am sending you and your whole family my wishes for peace. If you're at a loss for words, these thoughtful condolences and sympathy messages can help express your support to loved ones.