There is no rigid formular that your condolence letter must follow, so feel free to get as creative as you want with it. If you are looking to write your own sympathy message but don't know where to begin, here are some ideas and writing samples to help you.Remind Your Friend You Are There For Them. You want your friend to know you are there for them. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your partner. With deepest sympathy for your loss. Please accept our sincere sympathies. Our community has lost a valuable and respected member and we have lost a cherished friend. Please know that I'm here for you if you need anything. "Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort as you remember a friend who was so close to you.