Compliment the one who is gone share a connection or memory you have with the child. "I am deeply sorry for your loss.Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy. When writing a condolence letter, starting with an empathetic and compassionate tone is essential. Amongst the colleagues that tried to comfort me with 'so sorry for your loss' 'how can we help? "When we lose a life on earth, we gain an angel in heaven. When conveying your condolences stick to "I'm very sorry for your loss" and avoid the temptation to say something "profound" or anything of the sort.