Compliment the one who is gone share a connection or memory you have with the child. Please accept my heartfelt condolences during this incredibly difficult time.Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy. "At some point in our lives, we know our loved ones will leave us. It's a part of life. "Sending healing prayers and comforting hugs. I am so sorry for your loss. Amongst the colleagues that tried to comfort me with 'so sorry for your loss' 'how can we help? Here is my suggestion for you. I am sorry your friend and her family are going through this.