HannahI am so deeply sorry for the loss of that childyour lossyou lost her, too. Be sincere and express your feelings of sympathy.You do not need to express condolences for your own loss. Ram Dass wrote a letter some years ago to a family who had lost their young daughter, Rachel. Make sure you include the name of the person who died or mention the specific incident that caused sorrow for the person. A letter offering sympathy for the death of a child respectfully acknowledges the reader's misfortune while offering comfort and support. Please accept my sympathy for your sad loss. To the family who have lost a child. We are so very sorry for your loss. Meaningful, personal, and compassionate letters of condolence can be both a tribute to the child who died and a source of comfort to the parents.