Include specific examples of how the person has helped you or someone else, or how he or she has been a leader or an inspiration. Introduce yourself in the opening paragraph.A character letter to a judge should establish your credibility, paint a full picture of the defendant and be respectful, among other things. What parents and witnesses need to know about character reference letters to the court for child custody. Includes a downloadable sample and template. A character reference letter for court should address the points the accused's attorney wants to emphasize, such as the defendant's positive work history.