Kindly consider what you have just read. Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length.Try to leave graciously. Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. Keep your former church in your prayers and speak well of it. For the first time in the history of the. Archdiocese every active priest will be out of town for a week.