The best thing to do is to explain the reasons for leaving so that the church is not hurt or mystified as to why you are leaving. Customizing your Leaving a Church Letter is easy with Jotform Sign.If people are gracious enough to let me know they are leaving, I write them a letter and thank them for their attendance and past service. What is a gracious way to leave the church? Here are 8 ways to resign from a church volunteer position gracefully with confidence and without shame or fear. We love each of you so much, and are very sad to say goodbye. We have grown so much during our time here. You are allowed to resign from a church whenever you wish to do so, no matter what your covenant, church constitution or designated church leader says. How do I write a letter to leave my church? This isn't loving or fair to your brothers and sisters at the church.