Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. What are some wrong reasons for leaving the local congregation?Be honest, be upfront, and be loving and gentle. Customizing your Leaving a Church Letter is easy with Jotform Sign. How do I communicate my reasons for leaving gracefully and honestly to my church? Share honestly but graciously why your family chose to leave and why you are excited about becoming part of this new church family. It is with deep sadness that I write to you to resign from the Council of Delegates of the Christian Reformed Church. Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church.