Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. What are some good reasons for leaving your local congregation?Contra Costa County Office of the Sheriff. Letter of Instructions-General Process. Try to leave graciously. This manual (November 28, 2012) is written for incarcerated parents in. California prisons and jails who want to have visits with their minor children but. Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. As a superior court judge, Bereola has handled juvenile dependency and delinquency matters as well as adult criminal cases. • Doesn't borrow without permission.