Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Write a letter to or call the church's office and ask to withdraw membership and remove your information from their records.Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church. Below, we'll take a look at some of the options available and two sample letters to remove a board member. You are allowed to resign from a church whenever you wish to do so, no matter what your covenant, church constitution or designated church leader says.