Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. If people are gracious enough to let me know they are leaving, I write them a letter and thank them for their attendance and past service.Create and write an official letter to announce your departure from a church. Download finished copies as PDFs. Be honest, be upfront, and be loving and gentle. What is a gracious way to leave the church? In Revelation 2-3, we read John's letter to seven churches. These passages are Christ's words to His Church. Hi Lauren, You don't know me. We have never met and probably never will.