Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Kindly consider what you have just read.Tell the pastor you are leaving. This may be the most important point. Share honestly but graciously why your family chose to leave and why you are excited about becoming part of this new church family. We love each of you so much, and are very sad to say goodbye. We have grown so much during our time here. Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church. Free archive of digitized historic newspapers from Georgia 1763–present.