Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Thank you for the ways that you have loved us.Thank you for inviting us into your homes. Create and write an official letter to announce your departure from a church. Download finished copies as PDFs. Be honest, be upfront, and be loving and gentle. So, to my Central church family, I want to say, bless you, bless you, bless you, for you have been nothing but a blessing to us for 10 years. What are some wrong reasons for leaving the local congregation? I'd like to have that "peace" you talk about in making your decision to leave, but I don't. I certainly don't want your family to experience what our family has gone through.