Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. The question here is not, how do I leave a church?I did leave, and am now in a new place much better for me. Thank you, thank you, for all you've done, for your sweet heart for the Lord and for your neighbors. How do I communicate my reasons for leaving gracefully and honestly to my church? The Board of Elders wants to reach out to you personally to address the recent events in our church and to provide you with an update.