Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Actively seek to resolve the challenges before you.Create and write an official letter to announce your departure from a church. Download finished copies as PDFs. Communicate respectfully with the pastor about your decision to leave. Be honest, be upfront, and be loving and gentle. Instead, have a kind and graceful conversation with your pastor and leaders. I want you to know how much you and your family have meant to me, my family and this church, that makes your letter and mine all the more painful. You will also want to specify the last possible date you're able to work. In addition to that, you can give a brief statement explaining your decision to leave.