Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. One more poor reason is when you don't feel like being a part of the church, but do not have any good biblical or moral grounds for leaving.Learn what a church resignation letter is, what to include and how to write a church resignation letter. Be honest, be upfront, and be loving and gentle. Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. Dr. Nicole Massie Martin is an Assistant Professor of Ministry and Leadership Development at GordonConwell Theological Seminary in Charlotte, NC. Keep your former church in your prayers and speak well of it. We small church pastors have to rely on the Bible for our intel. I got this stuff from the Gospel of Matthew, 25th Chapter to be precise. We need you, yes, you.