Write a letter to or call the church's office and ask to withdraw membership and remove your information from their records. You can always write a formal letter to your local church board stating your request and the reasons why.Can a church refuse one a letter pulling your membership at your request. Your church must have bylaws or some other guidelines that describe the grounds for revocation of membership. "Transferring your letter" is more of a perfunctory act between churches who are merely shuffling members as though they are numbers on a score board. Of the Maryland Declaration of Rights. Church membership is a job. You're expected to show up for work (Heb. –25). No personal information will be given to agencies without your permission.