The best thing to do is to explain the reasons for leaving so that the church is not hurt or mystified as to why you are leaving. Kindly consider what you have just read.Thank you, Margaret. My life has been an extended journey from church to church. Please respect my wishes and vote me out. Let me offer five keys to leaving your church well: 1. Make sure you are leaving for the right reasons. Try to leave graciously. Pastors should never demand unquestioning obedience. People leave churches in three conditions: 1.) To align themselves with a pastor's vision at the leading of the Lord.