Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. You will also want to specify the last possible date you're able to work.In addition to that, you can give a brief statement explaining your decision to leave. Also, the elders may not be able to give you a letter of transfer or a good letter of standing to take to the next assembly. It is with deep sadness that I write to you to resign from the Council of Delegates of the Christian Reformed Church. Communicate clearly and graciously. I recommend doing this in person, on the phone, or through a thoughtful, personal email. Leaving a church can often be a complicated and painful process. Here are a few tips for how to leave a church gracefully. Under "The Role of Detroit's Black Churches in the Civil Rights Movement.