Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Kindly consider what you have just read.Try to leave graciously. Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. Essential Bible verses on this subject include Psalm , Isaiah , and Matthew 30. How do I communicate my reasons for leaving gracefully and honestly to my church? The Lord has some important things he wants to say to us as a church through these 26 blessings of grace. Pray that as we hear each of them, we will hear God. I am reminded of a man I once knew in Minnesota whose name was Rod.