You can always write a formal letter to your local church board stating your request and the reasons why. Write a letter to or call the church's office and ask to withdraw membership and remove your information from their records.Can a church refuse one a letter pulling your membership at your request. Most churches, whether incorporated or unincorporated, have a governing document that addresses several issues of governance and administration. Your church must have bylaws or some other guidelines that describe the grounds for revocation of membership. "Transferring your letter" is more of a perfunctory act between churches who are merely shuffling members as though they are numbers on a score board. All paperwork must be filled out completely and properly signed and notarized. Paperwork must be filled out completely and properly signed and notarized. Women are not ordained to the priesthood but occupy leadership roles in some church organizations. Both men and women may serve as missionaries.