You can always write a formal letter to your local church board stating your request and the reasons why. I am looking for some advice on how to resign my membership at my church, on good terms, but still occasionally attend.Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church. Below, we'll take a look at some of the options available and two sample letters to remove a board member. In the case of a withdrawal a simple announcement that someone has withdrawn from the church should suffice. Keep it short and to the point. (It is understood that this letter of recommendation terminates the bearer's membership in The Wesleyan Church immediately.) C. Letter of Membership Withdrawal. I have found some churches deny the withdrawal of membership while under church discipline. If you 'request name removal' in your exit letter, you are giving them permission to handle the situation THEIR way.