Submit a written request (via email or paper) to withdraw to their district superintendent for deposit with the NC Conference Secretary, Rev. How do I write a letter to change my church membership?This is an almost unanswerable question without context. Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church. I wish to bring to your attention a matter of personal significance- my decision to end my membership with our church. Send it to the pastor of the church and invite him and the entire church to the funeral. Give date, time and place. You are allowed to resign from a church whenever you wish to do so, no matter what your covenant, church constitution or designated church leader says.