If they send you mail or email, you ask them to remove you from their list. Done. For Catholic parishes, it works the same.The Book of Discipline provides that members can be removed from the membership role if they "transfer, die or have withdrawn from membership." The ONLY way to be ENTIRELY removed from The UMC is transfer. This is grounded in our theology of baptism and membership. If the member does not comply with any of the available alternatives over a period of two years, the member's name may be removed. If a pastor is informed that a member has without notice united with a church of another denomination, the pastor shall make diligent inquiry. A Strange Split In the UMC. The United Methodist Church has decided to divide over the issue of same-sex marriage. James Cash (JC) Penney, Jr., early twentieth-century business and retail man, was dedicated to the local Methodist community of Salt Lake City.