Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. Also, the elders may not be able to give you a letter of transfer or a good letter of standing to take to the next assembly.Don't be a part of influencing others to leave the church. The Board of Elders wants to reach out to you personally to address the recent events in our church and to provide you with an update. Customizing your Leaving a Church Letter is easy with Jotform Sign. Communicate clearly and graciously. I recommend doing this in person, on the phone, or through a thoughtful, personal email. Most appeal and request letters require a page or two.