Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length. "I am no longer a member of this church.I do not need your permission, nor do I care whether or not you agree with my decision. "Signed,. Customizing your Leaving a Church Letter is easy with Jotform Sign. I did leave, and am now in a new place much better for me. Thank you, thank you, for all you've done, for your sweet heart for the Lord and for your neighbors. What is a gracious way to leave the church? You are allowed to resign from a church whenever you wish to do so, no matter what your covenant, church constitution or designated church leader says. Dear Chairman Board of Elders,. I am writing to withdraw my membership from Grace Community Church.