The best thing to do is to explain the reasons for leaving so that the church is not hurt or mystified as to why you are leaving. Kindly consider what you have just read."I am no longer a member of this church. I do not need your permission, nor do I care whether or not you agree with my decision. "Signed,. Try to leave graciously. How do I communicate my reasons for leaving gracefully and honestly to my church? Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. So what should a faithful Christian do when faced with the decision of whether to divorce their spouse? Topic of the Winter Bible Study. I pray that they help you in your Bible study and sermon preparation. The.