Church members should exercise graciousness and courtesy in leaving a church. Write a long, nasty, mean-spirited letter to explain everything that they dislike about the church and articulate their own self-pity at length.Leaving a church doesn't mean leaving faith. It can mean finding a path that better resonates with your evolving spiritual identity. Kindly consider what you have just read. Leaving a church can often be a complicated and painful process. Here are a few tips for how to leave a church gracefully. Keep your former church in your prayers and speak well of it.