In an arranged marriage, what should a boy ask a girl in the first meeting? Scene: The first arranged marriage meeting.Boy entered my home alone. He's asking for because there are a lot of people who lie regarding income before weddings. You do NOT need to get married in City Hall or in the Court House, but you do need a marriage license in order to get married and a marriage certificate. However, Clark- Decés and other anthropologists note that arranged marriage remains the norm and ideal among youth as well. In arranged marriages one starts with lower expectations and realizes the need for compromise that is essential in a successful bond. My Arranged Marriage With A Bad Boy. Generally, my family would define an arranged marriage as a marriage that heavily involves family, particularly parents, in setting up the couple. This preference for arranged marriages has a profound impact on how people grow up.