What should I ask the prospective match and how do we deal with the arranged marriage first meeting? Like how should i initiate a conversation with her??Should i ask her about her past? A 2-hour meeting turned into a 6-hour session of laughter, sharing stories and life experiences. It was like I had known him forever. These questions to ask prior to marriage can uncover areas where you align and where you might need to compromise. But it's not all serious! A room was booked in a hotel and that room wasn't too spacious to accommodate so many people but somehow both families somehow managed to sit. Specifically, the authors examine trends in spouse choice. In most families, the process is collaborative, the couple date independently and have complete say in the outcome.