There is no proper way to word that, as it's rude to ask for money. And definitely do not put anything about gifts or money on your invitations.We have been together for nearly ten years and we don't need a toaster, or a washing machine, or anything else. How do we ask for cash? I'm attending a wedding Sat. Evening at a downtown hotel (Michigan Ave) and am wondering what would be an appropriate cash wedding gift? How do I Ask for Money for a Wedding Gift? When I texted friends, "Is it okay for a couple to TEXT thank-you notes for their wedding gifts? " I got three "OH HELL NO"s and one "HAIL NO! It definitely depends on how well you know the couple.