It's rude to expect people to give money. It's considered polite to indicate what you will be using the money is for.Com : How can I ask for money instead of gifts at my wedding? "May your marriage be filled with laughter, love, and countless beautiful moments. Best wishes on your wedding day! This article will provide you with some tips and guidelines on how to ask for cash wedding gifts politely and without offending anyone. Your presence at our wedding is gift enough, but, should you wish to give a gift as well, a cash gift to put towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. That's the most polite way I could think of . Apply here no more than 90 days before your wedding. Write your cards in advance, and put aside time at your reception to pass them out.