Don't word a wedding invitation asking guests to give you money as a gift which at least covers the cost of the meal. There is no proper way to word that, as it's rude to ask for money.And definitely do not put anything about gifts or money on your invitations. Com : How can I ask for money instead of gifts at my wedding? "Please do not feel obliged to buy us a gift; all that we are expecting is you. Wedding thank you card wording doesn't need to be hard. Your presence at our wedding is gift enough, but, should you wish to give a gift as well, a cash gift to put towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. Gifts should never be mentioned on save the dates or invitations it is rude. A gift letter is a piece of legal, written correspondence explicitly stating that money received isn't expected to be repaid. It definitely depends on how well you know the couple.