Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters. This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring.You can write your own letter or use our sample letter. Q: How do I opt-out my child from testing? When I give the principle letters for opt out I ask for them to contact and let me know what they plan for my child to do on test day. Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter. We are writing today to inform you of our decision to refuse to allow our child, ________________________, to participate in all standardized tests and tasks. My son will not be participating in state standardized testing during the current school year. According to the National Association of State Boards of Education's.