You can write your own letter or use our sample letter. Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters.This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring. Dear Parent or Guardian: <. Q: How do I opt-out my child from testing? THIS SCHOOL is an amazing school and I appreciate the opportunity to refuse this test. If you do not want your student to participate in comprehensive sexual health or HIV prevention education, please fill out the attached. The city tests are given 3 times a year to all public school students kindergarten(!) through 10th grade. Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter.