Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters. This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring.You can write your own letter or use our sample letter. Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter. Take a sample letter, and make it your own! To my mind, the best letters are: --specific in delineating what you are not allowing your child to do. Q: How do I opt-out my child from testing? To prevent the DOE students' directory information, parents can complete the form below and give it to the principal at their child's school. To prevent the DOE students' directory information, parents can complete the form below and give it to the principal at their child's school.