Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters. This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring.You can write your own letter or use our sample letter. Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter. Q: How do I opt-out my child from testing? We are writing today to inform you of our decision to refuse to allow our child, ________________________, to participate in all standardized tests and tasks. NYC Opt Out is a coalition of parents and educators concerned about high-stakes testing in the City. Our Facebook group provides a supportive space for parents. Rather, we feel that there is an overemphasis on standardized testing in today's public schools and we would prefer not to be a part of it this year.